Into Every Life.... A Little Rain Must Fall...

Seems like life goes on in spite of or because of us. When I was having so many troubles, at one point, I felt like the world was all focused on me and pointing their fingers and going..... Oh dear...she sure has messed things up. In particular at times I have felt certain family members and friends (outside the loop of normal folks like me) were doing just that. Now it would seem that gradually surefootedly they with age are coming inside that very same circle I reside in. No; I am not pointing the finger I mentioned earlier. At least, I try very hard not to. I can't help but notice sometimes though that some of these very same folks who had hte perfect families done just right sooner or later come INSIDE the circle as realitiy hits. Real life does happen, the bubble bursts, and more get into that circle of reality. Perfect children do imperfect things, or we find out imperfect things happened to them. We realize we can't fix it all which while we always knew we couldn't somehow now it hits us in the face in yet a bigger way. Much as we want to fix it all, we know we can't. All we can do is pray and "be there" IF they let us...and deeper into the circle of those with imperfect out of control lives we find ourselves.

Long ago I decided that the more children one has, the sooner and more apt one is to fall inside the circle of "imperfect out-of-control" worlds. I know I am seated there. A little while ago I thought pretty much I had the only seat in that circle. Then I realized there was a seat beside me and now it is occupied..yet another seat sits there waiting for the next occupant.

There is no escape for us older folks/older parents from the "circle of reality". Sometimes our chair's position might change but once reality hits it is there to stay.

I feel badly for my family with problems, really I do. I can't help but say though "Welcome to the club". There is strength in numbers. I would rather have company in the "circle" than be there sitting alone. Perhaps this is what the full circle is all about....families/sibling groups grow apart for years once grown.... Then; when those they are growing are done...seemingly...they come back to one another out of a sense of commonness, IE: Being in that circle together again. Sharing life's problems from another vantage.


Mel